Now it wasn’t just my number.
It was everyone’s number.

More calls.
More pipeline.
More pressure from the top.

And like most new managers, I thought the answer was pushing harder.

But I learned something over time:
👉 You don’t build great teams by pushing people.
👉 You build them by serving people.

That’s exactly what Joel Smith and I unpacked on a recent episode of the Authentic Sales Manager Podcast.

We talked about what it really means to lead with authenticity, and why putting people first isn’t soft, and it’s actually the strongest strategy you have.

If you’re leading a sales team (or about to), this one hits home.

Authentic Leadership Starts with Being Yourself

A lot of new managers get this wrong.

They step into leadership and try to become someone else:

More authoritative
More “corporate”
More like what they think a leader should be

Joel said it best:

Authenticity is about being yourself and caring more about others than yourself.

Simple. But definitely not easy.

Real leadership isn’t about image.
It’s about intention.

When your team feels that you genuinely care about them, not just their numbers, they respond differently.

Trust builds.
Walls come down.
Performance follows.

Your Team Will Mirror You

One of my favorite parts of the conversation was Joel’s sports analogy.

He talked about how teams take on the personality of their coach:

Loud coach → loud team
Negative coach → negative team
Empathetic coach → empathetic team

Sales teams are no different.

👉 If you lead with pressure, they operate in fear.
👉 If you lead with trust, they perform with confidence.

As a manager, whether you realize it or not

You set the tone for everything.

Individuals on the team are not motivated the same.

Here’s where most managers fall short.

They assume everyone is driven by the same thing:
💰 Money

But Joel broke it down in a way every leader needs to hear:

Someone in their 20s? Likely building financially
Someone in their 40s–50s? Balancing family and stability
Someone nearing retirement? Thinking legacy and security

Same team.
Completely different motivations.

That’s why real leadership starts with one simple question:

👉 “What’s important to you?”

And then actually listening.

Relationships Drive Performance

If you want better results, start with better relationships.

It means:

Asking about their life outside of work
Remembering what matters to them
Showing up for them consistently

Joel shared something powerful:

Sometimes your one-on-one shouldn’t be about numbers at all.

That’s a shift.

Because when someone is off, struggling, or distracted

It’s rarely just about sales.

When you take time to understand the person, you unlock performance in a way metrics alone never will.

A lot of managers think trust comes from what they say.

But in reality?

👉 Trust comes from what you do behind the scenes.

Fighting for your team.
Advocating for better tools.
Pushing for changes that help them win.

Even when you don’t win those battles, Your team sees the effort.

And that matters.

Joel shared a moment where his team stood up and applauded him after he received an award because they knew he had their back.

That’s leadership.

There’s a dangerous trap in sales leadership:

👉 Becoming the “superstar closer”

Jumping into deals.
Saving the day.
Doing it for your reps.

It feels helpful.

But it actually holds your team back.

Joel made it clear:

90% of leadership should be coaching.

Your job isn’t to close deals.

Your job is to:

Teach your team how to think
Help them develop their skills
Build future leaders

Because a dependent team is a weak team.

An empowered team?
That’s where growth happens.

Control What You Can Control

Sales will always have variables:

Pricing
Products
Market conditions
Customer decisions

You can’t control those.

But you can control:

Your attitude
Your activity

And as a leader, your job is to reinforce that daily.

Final Thought: Check Your Ego at the Door

If there’s one piece of advice Joel left us with, it’s this:

👉 Ego has no place in leadership.

It’s not about:

Your title
Your authority
Your success

It’s about your people.

When you help them win,
You win.

Every time.

Being an authentic sales manager isn’t about being perfect.

It’s about being real, being present, and being committed to your team’s success.

What’s one thing you’re doing right now to build trust with your team?

If you haven’t yet, catch the full episode with Joel Smith for more real-world insights on leadership, empathy, and building teams that actually want to perform.

🎧 Link in the comments.

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My friend Larry Levine referred to salespeople being in the “sea of sameness” several years ago, before AI became popular. Well with AI, how much more have salespeople become “the same”.
A prospect looking at 3 competitors for a new technology solution may get 3- ChatGPT written proposals. Lovely
It’s time to show our originality again. It’s OK, actually it’s better to be you.

This is exactly what Jonathan Aberman and I discussed on a recent episode of Sales Made Easy.

We talked about something most people don’t want to admit:

👉 AI isn’t the problem.
👉 Losing your originality is.

If you’re in sales, running a business, or leading a team, and especially if you’ve felt the pressure to “keep up” with AI, this conversation will reset how you think about your value.

Let’s be honest.

Polished messages.
Perfect structure.
Zero personality.

AI has made it easy to sound good.

But here’s the catch Jonathan pointed out:

It’s also made it easy to sound exactly like everyone else.

AI, by design, pulls from patterns. It predicts what should come next. And when everyone uses it the same way, we end up with what he called a “sameness engine.”

And people feel that.

You’ve probably read messages and thought:

“This feels off.”
“This doesn’t sound human.”
“Something’s missing.”

What you’re actually detecting isn’t bad writing.

It’s a lack of being real and genuine.

Authenticity Isn’t a Buzzword. It’s a Competitive Advantage

Jonathan said something that stuck with me:

Humans value novelty and connection.

That’s it.

That’s where your edge is.

The Real Risk: Using AI as a Crutch

Here’s where things get uncomfortable.

Most people aren’t using AI as a tool.

They’re using it as a replacement.

Over-reliance can weaken your thinking.
Creativity starts to decline.
You stop trusting your own voice.

It often comes from a place people don’t talk about enough:

👉 Lack of confidence

“I’m not good enough.”
“This sounds better than what I’d say.”
“I’ll just use this.”

But here’s the truth:

That “perfect” AI response?

It’s not you.

And in sales, that disconnect costs you more than a typo ever could.

Use AI as an accelerator, not a substitute.

I use it. Jonathan uses it. The difference is how you use it.

Here’s the shift:

Instead of saying:
👉 “Write this for me”

Start saying:
👉 “Here’s what I’m thinking, help me refine it”

That’s where AI shines:

Researching prospects faster
Identifying talking points
Helping you prepare for meetings
Structuring ideas more clearly

But the final message?

That should still come from you.

Because that’s what people are actually buying into.

Differentiation Will Always Win

Jonathan broke it down in a way that makes a lot of sense:

Businesses compete in two ways:

Efficiency
Differentiation

AI dominates efficiency.

But it struggles with differentiation.

And most small businesses?

They don’t win by being the most efficient.

They win by being:

More human
More relatable
More original

That’s what matters.

That’s your advantage.

Here’s the part that should give you confidence:

People are starting to ask:

“Who actually wrote this?”
“Is this real?”
“Is there a person behind this?”

That’s not going away.

If anything, it’s growing.

Whether it’s:

A sales conversation
A piece of content
A product or service

👉 The human touch is becoming more valuable, not less.

Final Thought: Your Voice Is the Value

If you take one thing from this conversation, let it be this:

You don’t need to sound perfect.

You need to sound real.

Because in a world full of automation, scripts, and generated responses

👉 Originality stands out.
👉 Authenticity connects.
👉 And being human wins.

What’s one way you’re using AI without losing your voice?

If you haven’t listened yet, check out the full episode with Jonathan Aberman to see how your originality matters.

🎧 Link in the comments.

#SalesMadeEasy #AuthenticityWins #OriginalityMatters #AIinSales #RelationshipSelling #SellingWithDignity

That’s what Ramona Crabtree-Faulkner and I discussed on a recent Sales Made Easy episode. We talked about moving away from the old “push, close, hit numbers or bust” mindset to something simpler and more sustainable: flow instead of force, intention instead of stress, attracting good outcomes instead of chasing them.

If you’re in sales, running a business, or leading a team, and especially if burnout has been knocking, these ideas can make a real difference.

Energy: It’s Either Pulling People In or Pushing Them Away

You’re either the person who lights up a room or the one who makes it feel heavy. You don’t need to be the loudest or have the flashiest pitch. A genuine smile, solid eye contact, and real good vibes do the work. People feel it. Positive energy draws them closer. Anxious, needy energy makes them back off.

Ramona nailed it: Fake positivity is worse than nothing. Putting on a grin when you’re crumbling inside? People sense the disconnect right away. Real energy comes from knowing your worth, trusting there’s plenty of opportunity out there, and walking in empowered instead of desperate.

Your mindset and energy are your best sales tools. When you’re grounded, excited about what you bring, and secure that one “no” doesn’t define you, people relax and lean in. I saw this play out over 20 years selling copiers.

Drawing from solid principles like treating people right (which lines up with timeless wisdom and what pros like Tom Hopkins and Brian Tracy taught), it changed everything. No more chasing deals. They started coming to us.

Visualize the Win Before You Even Step In

One of Ramona’s best tips: Before any call or meeting, take 30 to 60 seconds. Close your eyes, breathe, and picture what you want the end to feel like.

See the happy client, the mutual win, the easy connection. Feel it for real.

Walk in carrying that energy, and the whole vibe shifts. You’re relaxed, present, confident. Pressure fades. Real conversations happen naturally.

This isn’t magic. It’s practical mindset work with real results. Back in the day, I put up signs in the office reminding everyone of “smiling happy customers.” When a rep was stressed, I’d pull them aside: “Picture the high-five, the thrilled client on the other end.”

Numbers climbed, the team got tighter, and sales reps on other teams actually wanted to work with us due to the fun and energy we were enjoying!

Next time you have a sales call or meeting:

Pause for 30 to 60 seconds.
Picture the positive outcome: smiling client, win-win, good energy all around.

Really feel it.

Then walk in (or dial in) with that mindset.

Watch how people respond differently and how much lighter you feel.

What’s one mindset shift or quick visualization habit that’s helped you move from pressure to pull in your sales or business?

Grab the full Sales Made Easy episode with Ramona for more on mindset, energy, and leading without burning out. Link in the comments. 🎧

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Vicki, AKA “The Joy Kindler,” has mastered showing up with warmth and presence, even on tough days. Her approach reminds us that people don’t buy from companies. They buy from people who make them feel seen, valued, and cared for.

Start with Preparation and Curiosity

Before any meeting, Vicki digs deep: she reads LinkedIn bios, Googles publications, checks organizations, and learns what matters to the person she’s about to meet. She walks in ready to talk about them, not herself.

The result? Conversations feel natural and respectful. She asks thoughtful questions, pauses to listen, and lets the other person lead.

When a doctor shared a deeply personal story about his mother’s passing and his career choice, it wasn’t random, it came from asking and creating safe space for him to open up.

Bring Joy Even When You Don’t Feel It

Some days, Vicki admits, she just wants to “hide under a rock” or disappear with a backpack. Yet she still walks into offices ready to serve.

Her secret?

She lives with gratitude and intention. Every morning she wakes with a deep breath and thanks God she’s alive, asking how she can better serve that day. At night, she reflects on high points and sets the tone for tomorrow.

When traffic jams or rude drivers appear, she chooses podcasts, audiobooks, or prayer instead of frustration. She gives grace to people who are in pain, physical or emotional, because she knows most of us are carrying something heavy.

Look the Part, Sell Wall-to-Wall

Vicki pays attention to details: polished shoes, professional appearance, handwritten thank-you notes, “I’m grateful for you” cards.

She greets everyone, receptionists, nurses, practice managers, because relationships start at the front desk.

She sells “wall to wall,” building trust across the entire office. That consistency turns her into the most favored person in the practice.

Serve First, Sell Second

Vicki’s philosophy is simple: it’s not about selling, it’s about serving. When you bring value, joy, empathy, and dignity, people remember you. They feel warmed, special, and connected.
The sale becomes secondary. The legacy you leave, how you made someone feel, becomes primary.

In her words: “All people want in life is to be loved, remembered, connected, and celebrated.” When you show up that way, the business follows naturally.

Sales isn’t a transaction; it’s a relationship. Prepare deeply, listen more than you speak, bring joy even on hard days, and serve with intention. The rest takes care of itself.

If you’ve ever had a “hide under a rock” day but still showed up for someone, share it below.

Donuts, Door Knocks, and the Law of Reciprocity: The Human Side of Sales

Many people think selling is all about cold calls, slick pitches, and closing deals. But as Richard Chapman shared with Harry Spaight on the Sales Made Easy podcast, effective sales isn’t about selling at all, it’s about building genuine connections. It’s a lesson that becomes especially relevant during the holiday season. A common thought in sales is “no one’s buying because it’s the holidays”. According to Richard Chapman, he ignores these excuses and focuses instead on relationship-building for the future.

Early in his career, Richard Chapman found a refreshingly simple strategy, donuts. He would buy dozens and show up at local businesses in person, using the tasty treats as conversation starters and ice breakers. These small gestures, rooted in reciprocity, open doors (sometimes literally!) and create goodwill, often resulting in helpful introductions, valuable business insights, or even direct sales. The lesson is clear: gifts, when authentic, help forge a bond that cold calls and emails struggle to match.

Keep Plugging: Staying Motivated in the Ups and Downs

Sales veterans know there are valleys just as often as there are peaks. Richard Chapman’s advice for those inevitable downturns? “Keep plugging.” Consistency is key, even during slow periods, persistent efforts will eventually lead to new business and fill your pipeline. This was evident in the story of a mentee who relocated to a new territory and, through steady networking and visibility, hit his quota after months of groundwork.

For newcomers who feel discouraged in the initial months, the message is clear: focus on the foundational “grunt work.” Calls, emails, events, and personal follow-ups aren’t glamorous, but they are essential for success. Eventually, that effort compounds into referrals, warm introductions, and fruitful sales relationships.

Networking: More Than Just Pitching

Networking isn’t about rattling off your value proposition to a crowded room. The real magic happens in one-on-one conversations, where listening takes precedence over pitching. Richard Chapman advocates for building authentic relationships. When people feel heard and valued, they’re not only more likely to do business with you, but also to refer you to others in their circle.

Harry Spaight and Richard Chapman echoed that the point of these interactions isn’t to sell outright, rather, it’s to understand others, ask questions about their business challenges, and offer relevant insights. The deeper you dig, the more likely prospects are to see you as a trusted advisor rather than just another salesperson.

Community Involvement: A Secret Weapon for Sales Success

Beyond traditional networking, getting involved in your local community may be one of the most powerful career moves you make. Richard Chapman credits much of his long-term success to engagement with organizations like Kiwanis. This gave him not only personal fulfillment but also invaluable business contacts, introductions, and credibility within his community.

If you’re battling a slump in motivation, giving back is an excellent antidote. You’ll find yourself surrounded by purpose-driven people, making a tangible impact, and gaining fresh energy for your sales activities. Community involvement turns you from a stranger into a familiar, trusted presence. People prefer to do business with someone who genuinely cares about the community.

Selling on Value, Not Price

Another recurring theme was the importance of selling value over price. Richard Chapman emphasizes that focusing on solutions, support, and long-term partnerships wins deeper loyalty and repeat business. Cheap competitors may initially entice clients, but rarely provide the same level of service or reliability. True owners recognize your value when you understand their business and offer relevant solutions.

Even for those new to sales, building knowledge and asking thoughtful questions enables you to add value, even if you’re still learning the ropes. Doing industry research, listening, and tailoring your service helps you stand out from price-driven competitors.

Gratitude, Consistency, and the Power of Referrals

Finally, expressing gratitude and consistently following up are vital practices. Buyers have choices, and taking them for granted is a mistake. Thanking customers, resolving issues promptly, and maintaining regular contact insulate you from competitors and increase loyal referrals.

Referrals often come from clients who received genuine value and support. By asking how they found you and what made the difference, you gain critical insights for refining your approach. And as Richard reminds, touching base a few times a year with existing clients isn’t just good business, it’s essential for long-term success.

If your sales strategy feels stuck, focus on building bridges between people, within your community, and across industries. Sales is about relationships, not transactions. From donuts to door knocks, networking events to Kiwanis meetings, and consistent follow-up to genuine gratitude, the keys to sales success go far beyond the pitch.

So get out there, listen more than you talk, give back, and watch the pipeline take care of itself.

For sales professionals, uncertain economic times aren’t a signal to retreat; they’re an invitation to refine, refocus, and rise. Here’s how to ‘paint the windows black,’ block out the noise, and sell with dignity—even when the market feels shaky.” 

The Storm Outside vs. The Focus Within
Economic uncertainty can feel like a relentless storm. One minute, forecasts are sunny; the next, dark clouds loom. For sales teams, this volatility triggers “Sit Tight For Now” decisions —clients tighten budgets, defer decisions, and skepticism grows. But here’s the truth: the storm outside doesn’t have to dictate your momentum inside. 

“Painting the windows black” isn’t about ignoring reality. It’s about choosing where to direct your focus. Instead of fixating on macroeconomic doom, zero in on what you can control: 

• Your daily actions 
• Your mindset
• Your commitment to serving clients
• Your ability to adapt

The Unwavering Pulse of Commerce

It’s easy to assume everyone has stopped buying. But here’s the reality: hundreds of billions of dollars are still spent every month in the U.S. alone. Commerce doesn’t stop—it shifts. Your job? Find the buyers who are ready now and nurture those who will be soon. 

How to Adapt:
Sharpen Your Prospecting:

• Target industries less impacted by downturns (e.g., healthcare, essential services). 

• Listen for signals of urgency (e.g., “We need to cut costs” or “Our current solution isn’t working”). 

Reframe Your Messaging:

• Address pain points exacerbated by uncertainty (e.g., inefficiency, risk mitigation). 

• Highlight the Return on Investment, not just features. 

Ask Better Questions:

• “How is the current climate affecting your priorities?” 

• “What would make this decision easier for you right now?”

Nurturing Seeds in a Shifting Season

Some buyers will delay—but that doesn’t mean you disengage. Dismissing them is shortsighted; pressuring them destroys trust.

Instead:

• Build relationships without immediate expectations. 
• Offer value (e.g., insights, free resources). 
• Position yourself as a trusted advisor—not a pushy salesperson.

Remember: When the economy rebounds, clients will remember who stayed helpful—not who disappeared or demanded a sale. 

Keeping Morale Alive in the Trenches

Uncertainty hits sales teams hard. Commission checks shrink. Leaders miss bonuses. Business owners panic. This is where leadership defines culture. 

For Sales Leaders:

• Be the calm in the storm. Acknowledge challenges but focus on solutions. 
• Celebrate small wins (e.g., “Great discovery call!” or “You handled that perfectly!”). 
• Shift metrics from lagging (closed deals) to leading (meaningful conversations, pipeline growth). 

For Salespeople:

• Control what you can: Activity levels, skill development, attitude. 
• Lean into service. Zig Ziglar said it best: “You’ll get everything you want in life if you help others get what they want.” 

A Lesson from 2009: The Power of Resolve

After the 2008 crash, my team made a choice: We wouldn’t let fear dictate our effort. We focused on fundamentals—connecting, listening, solving—and in doing so, we created momentum. 

Key Takeaway: Economic storms don’t last forever. The teams that thrive are the ones who refuse to let external chaos derail internal discipline. 

Selling: The Lifeblood of Economic Vitality

Sales isn’t just about quotas—it’s about fueling progress. Every transaction creates jobs, funds innovation, and strengthens communities. Selling with dignity isn’t sleazy; it’s essential. 

How to Thrive Now:

1. Double Down on Service
   • Solve real problems. Clients remember who helped them survive tough times. 
2. Sharpen Your Skills
   • Use slower periods for training, refining pitches, and researching prospects. 
3. Stay Empathetic
   • Listen more. Pressure less. 
4. Remember Your “Why”
   • Connect your work to the bigger picture: You’re not just selling—you’re enabling growth. 

Paint Your Windows, Not Theirs

Uncertainty will always exist. But the best sales professionals don’t wait for calm seas—they learn to sail in rough waters. By focusing on what you can control, serving with integrity, and leading with empathy, you won’t just survive—you’ll thrive. 

Paint your windows black. Block out the noise. And sell like the economy depends on it—because, in many ways, it does.

Harry Spaight is a sales leadership coach and author of Selling With Dignity. He equips organizations to develop sales leaders who inspire and empower high-performing teams.